Balancing the world inside (2)
Jun. 10th, 2005 07:44 pmIrrational idea for today:
people are fragile and should never be hurt.
This irrational belief results in failure
to openly communicate important feelings, and
in self-sacrifice that gives up what is
nourishing and pleasurable. Since everything
you need or want seems to hurt or deprive someone
else, you feel frustration, helplessness, and
depression. Relationships become full of dead
space where conflicts developed and nothing
was said.
from _The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook_
people are fragile and should never be hurt.
- Some of the escalators are still broken.
Half the window is blocked.
No juice.
Write down the facts.
Write down your subjective self-talk.
Describe your emotional response.
Dispute and change irrational self-talk.
Substitute alternative, rational self-talk.
Notice your thoughts and feelings,
acknowledge them non-judgementally,
and let them go.
Okay. I'm going dancing now.
This irrational belief results in failure
to openly communicate important feelings, and
in self-sacrifice that gives up what is
nourishing and pleasurable. Since everything
you need or want seems to hurt or deprive someone
else, you feel frustration, helplessness, and
depression. Relationships become full of dead
space where conflicts developed and nothing
was said.
from _The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook_